Why Bad Things Happen To Good People
© 2012 GypsyJaguar
When bad things happen to bad people, we call it justice. When bad things happen to good people, we call it unfair, a tragedy, and heartbreaking. When we lose someone, or someone we know has suffered any type of tragedy, it affects us and everyone else around them very deeply. When they were someone who had a huge heart, potential to make a big difference in the world, or were very young, hence having a whole life of potential ahead of them, it raises many questions of why tragedies like this happen.
When people are affected by a tragic experience or loss, it changes their entire view of the world around them. Depending on the circumstances and the individual, there may be several paths their grief takes them, but regardless of which direction each person is lead, their lives are never the same. Eventually, their priorities in life are rearranged, making them re-examine their own lives, looking to see what they have done to make a difference; how they will be remembered when they pass over. Then they start making some sort of a difference in their lives and the lives of everyone around them.
Think of how many young, angelic, light-hearted children have a terminal illness. They seem wise beyond their years, actually helping their loved-ones cope with the destiny they have already accepted. They end up teaching their family and friends about unconditional love, ever-lasting connections and the beauty of life, itself. They are little miracles, heaven-sent angels, to all those they come in contact with. These are the lessons of why these things happen.
Think of the young, successful, service-oriented people who have suffered a horrible experience, accident, or tragic death that grips the whole community with grief and confusion. You hear people say things like; "Why?...They were sooo young!", "Such a tragedy...so much potential there..." or "That just breaks my heart." This ignites unanswered questions leading to discussions and inherent compassion between everyone involved. The whole community comes together to help make sense of it all and to be there for those in need. Tragedies bring people together.
Bad things do not happen to good people to punish them or the people around them. Things like these happen to raise our awareness. It's along the same lines of why we have nightmares. When we are awakened from a nightmare, we remember every detail, every feeling, every smell, sight and sound. It forces us to pay attention, to remember. These nightmares tend to have the most profound and relevant messages for us. The reason we are shown these messages as a nightmare, is to make us remember.
Experiences and feelings that impact us deeply are merely profound messages and lessons of revelation for us to learn deep truths about ourselves and the world around us. They are divine gifts shrouded in mysterious and often painful situations. But the reason is not to cause pain and discomfort, this is merely how we adjust to the sudden and forced change of any kind of loss. The true reason is to cause profound change based on eventual realization.
Without tragedies, there would never be all of the support and awareness organizations to help people cope with experiences, such as terminal care centers, children's specialty hospitals, grief counseling groups, drug and alcohol abuse support groups, domestic violence and rape foundations, community watch groups, criminal justice organizations and telephone hotlines. These organizations make huge differences in people's lives. They bring people together to share their stories to help each other learn from, cope with and eventually heal from their experiences. They raise awareness to educate people on the matters at hand, to try to help future tragedies from occurring, whenever possible. They help ease the pain of transitional periods in our lives.
When we are faced with a loss or senseless tragedy in our lives or the lives of our friends or loved-ones, we must give ourselves plenty of time to grieve in our own ways and process all of our feelings, thoughts and questions associated with it. It is our time to put things on hold for a while as we give ourselves ample time and plenty of space to deal with all of the emotions and questions that arise as a result. We must have our alone time when we need it and we must also have our times of talking things out with a trusted friend, family member or other support system. We are meant to slowly go through this process at our own pace. We will know when the time is right for us to move on once we process the majority of our emotions and feel we have come to terms with our personal unanswered questions.
We must remind ourselves that bad things happen to good people to make a profound impact on our perception of ourselves, others and the world, in general. They happen to force change in our lives. They happen to ultimately lead us to divine understanding, realization and illumination. We have every right to feel however we do as we struggle through our process of grieving. The journey is crucial to travel in order to get to the ultimate destination. But once we arrive, we will see, in retrospect, that everything we felt and went through was a divine gift of a difficult, but profound journey of the lessons of unconditional love and ultimate truth.
Also see:
Emotional Healing - Dealing With Issues - Coping with Grief - Why Bad Things Happen to Good People - Releasing Anger - Forgiveness - Acceptance - Facing Your Fears - True Strength - Rediscovering Yourself - A Feel-Good Project - Finding Your True Love
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